Why Your Wife Has No Sex Drive
Dealing with low sex drive can be frustrating.
I know, you know how it feels right?
If your wife has no sex drive, it can lead you to wonder what is wrong with your marriage, what might be upsetting her or thinking of yourself “what is wrong with me?” that misleads you to porn addiction and once already consumed, it gets hard towards porn addiction treatment.
A woman who has very low sex drive might just be built that way, but there could also be underlying problems that she can’t help at all. Before you get upset that your wife has no sex drive, take a step back and evaluate what is really going on.
So stop bothering yourself today and know why it is happening.
Don’t argue with her. Don’t be mad either.
Why your wife has no sex drive?
If your wife once had a healthy sex drive but no longer seems to want sexual relations, there might be a problem and it is not all in her head. Loss of sexual desire is real, true problem for many women.
In fact, nearly one-third of women between the ages of 18 and 59 seem to have lost interest in sex. There is even a medical term for it: hypoactive sexual desire disorder or HSDD.
Unfortunately, the problem can be caused by much more than physical. Mental factors play into the situation as well. In addition to potential medical problems and side effects from medications, women might experience low testosterone, especially as they age. This can mean that their bodies don’t respond to sexual stimulation like they used to.
Mental triggers might include being upset, resentful or angry with their partner or it might be something much more benign, like just having given birth or being the sole caregiver to a loved one—these things can be draining and leaver her with no energy for sex.
There might also be issue with job stress, self-esteem or worrying about what their partner thinks about them. Emotional satisfaction, including the intimacy in a relationship, might also be on a decline and that can lead to a low sex drive.
Want to know what to do?
Let’s break this down.
What to do:
If your wife seems to have no desire for sex, you are not alone. Remember, this happens to nearly one-third of all women. Here are helpful tips on what to do if your wife has no sex drive and so that you will keep away from your porn addiction:
1. It’s not personal
Though it feels very personal to you, in most cases, her lower sex drive actually has nothing to do with you. She might simply have a lower sex drive due to her body chemistry and physical make up. Backing off for a while and letting her be the one to initiate the sexual activity might be a first good step. When she is ready, she will let you know.
2. Rev up your sex life
Does your spouse seem to still want sex with you?
Maybe she is just bored with what you have been doing. Rev things up by experimenting and trying new things. But at the same time, respect the things your wife doesn’t want to do.
For example, if she is against with pornography, of course never try to introduce that into the bedroom, it will turn her off even more.
3. Create a connection
Many women need to feel connected to their partners before they are ready to jump into bed with them. Your wife might not feel as though she is truly connected to you, especially if you have just gone through serious life together, such as the birth of a child or the death of a loved one.
Spend time relaxing together, giving her massages and trying to reduce the stress and anxiety you both feel. This will allow you to open up and talk more, which leads to a deeper connection.
4. Go back to start
Remember how hot she is used to be?
She probably does too and she misses it. Now is the time to flirt (wow!).
A pat on the rear, a wink when she walks by, telling her how good she looks and just being playful can help get her in the mood.
These little things often fall to the way side during long relationships, which is why it might seem your wife has no sex drive. She does—maybe you just need to tap into it again.
5. Touch her without sex on the menu
Many women complain that their husbands touch them but then want sex shortly after they do. While it’s natural for a man to want to get more physical, sometimes a woman simply needs a hug, touch or a cuddle without feeling as though she must ‘put out’ for the privilege of getting that touch.
Learn how to touch your wife expecting sex. Touch her simply because it makes her feel good and don’t expect anything in return.
6. Treat the underlying issues
If your wife still has no sex drive after all of this, it’s time to focus on the problems that might be creating this. Relationship therapy or sex counseling is often a wonderful place for couples to start.
She should also speak to her doctor about any medications she is on and how those might affect her sex drive. Medical conditions might also be a contributing factor, so a thorough physical is in order.
If she is having a medical issue that can be solved with medications, such as low testosterone or vaginal dryness.
Encourage her to get help for those issues.
7. Go above and beyond
Keep in mind that your wife might simply need more affection from you. If that’s the case, it’s time to step up your game. Introduce her to foods that are aphrodisiacs such as oysters, bring little gifts home to show her how much you appreciate her—a simple bouquet of flowers can work wonders.
Do what you can do to bring the spark back.
8.Try counseling
Lastly, remember that relationship counseling can uncover issues that your wife might not have keen to talk about before. If your wife has no sex drive, consider counseling as one of the first steps toward figuring out what the problem is and getting back on track.
And here is the conclusion…
If your wife has no sex drive it doesn’t mean you have to go run over pornography. Don’t wait to let yourself become addicted to porn instead evaluate why these are happening to your wife and win her back again.
Just in case, if you already were addicted to porn do not hesitate to talk about it with her and decide right away to start your porn addiction treatment together.
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